Let’s talk about infidelity—an uncomfortable subject, but a very real one that affects many lives in profound ways. Over the years, I’ve worked with numerous individuals who, as children, witnessed a parent being unfaithful. Some were even forced to keep this secret from the other parent, leaving them burdened with an emotional weight far too heavy for their young shoulders.
This traumatic experience often leaves children feeling helpless, angry, and deeply conflicted. Some even carry guilt and shame into adulthood, believing they were somehow complicit because they didn’t confront the unfaithful parent or speak up. Of course, we know that a child in such a situation is powerless to change the circumstances—yet the subconscious mind doesn’t always work in facts and logic. Instead, it clings to emotions and experiences, shaping behavior in ways that can last a lifetime.
Children who experience this type of trauma often grow up determined to be loyal and faithful to their partners. But in a tragic twist, some find themselves repeating the very behavior they despise—engaging in infidelity themselves. This creates an overwhelming sense of shame, guilt, and self-loathing, as they struggle to reconcile their actions with their values. Many feel trapped in a cycle they can’t seem to break, despite their best intentions.
So, why does this happen? The answer lies in the subconscious mind. Many people unknowingly model the behaviors of their parents, even if they consciously reject them. The subconscious holds powerful programs that dictate actions based on familiarity and past experiences. If the subconscious has been conditioned to see infidelity as “normal” or unavoidable, it can drive behavior that contradicts the conscious mind’s desires. This disconnect between the conscious and subconscious creates inner turmoil and frustration—but it can also be the key to change.
Hypnotherapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) are incredibly effective tools for addressing the root causes of this conflict. Hypnotherapy works by accessing the subconscious mind to identify and reprogram the beliefs and patterns that no longer serve you. It’s like replacing a faulty computer chip with a new one that aligns with your conscious goals and values.
Through guided hypnosis, individuals can release the guilt, shame, and anger associated with their childhood experiences. They can replace these negative emotions with self-compassion, understanding, and empowerment. Hypnotherapy helps create new subconscious programs that support healthier choices and behaviors, breaking the cycle of infidelity and building a foundation of trust and loyalty.
NLP coaching complements this process by helping clients reframe their thought patterns and develop strategies for healthier communication and decision-making. Together, these modalities create lasting change by aligning the conscious and subconscious minds.
If you or someone you know is struggling with the aftermath of infidelity or childhood trauma, know that help is available. You don’t have to remain stuck in patterns that cause pain and regret. Through hypnotherapy and NLP coaching, you can heal from the past and create a future that reflects the best version of yourself.
Isn’t it time to run the programs that fill you with pride, happiness, and peace? You deserve it.
Please feel free to reach out for a complimentary phone consultation. I’d be honored to help you on your journey toward healing and transformation.
Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., is the Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles. She is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master NLP Coach, and Master Time Line Therapy® Practitioner, specializing in helping clients navigate childhood trauma and rebuild their lives.
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