Have you ever had a performance review from a boss who gave you mostly positive ratings, but then, of course, there’s always that “opportunity area” they are required to find? That one less-than-stellar comment gets you in a tailspin and becomes the only thing you think about all day, maybe even for a few weeks. This phenomenon is a prime example of selective perception.
Selective perception is the process by which individuals perceive information that is aligned with their existing beliefs in interpreting information in the world, while ignoring opposing viewpoints. In the context of personal feedback, it might mean focusing on the negative comments while disregarding the positive ones. This tendency can significantly impact your emotional and mental well-being, leading to stress, anxiety, and decreased self-esteem.
Studies suggest that if left to its own devices, the human mind will contain 80% negative thoughts that are repeated 95% of the time. This negativity bias is a natural human tendency, but it can be detrimental if not managed properly. It’s crucial not to leave your mind to its own devices. Instead, you must actively manage your thoughts and perceptions to maintain a healthy and positive mindset.
This is where hypnotherapy and NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) coaching can be invaluable. Hypnotherapy is a therapeutic technique that helps access the subconscious mind to reframe negative thoughts and beliefs. During a hypnotherapy session, a client is guided into a state of deep relaxation, making it easier to explore the underlying causes of their negative perceptions. By addressing these root causes, clients can start to shift their focus from negative to positive aspects of their experiences.
NLP coaching, on the other hand, focuses on the relationship between language, behavior, and thought patterns. Through NLP techniques, clients learn to identify and modify their selective perception tendencies. For instance, if you habitually focus on negative feedback and ignore positive reinforcement, an NLP coach can teach you techniques such as reframing and anchoring to alter this pattern.
Reframing involves changing the way you perceive a situation. Instead of seeing negative feedback as a personal failure, you can reframe it as an opportunity for growth and improvement. This shift in perception can reduce the emotional impact of negative comments and help you focus on the positive aspects of your performance.
Anchoring is another powerful NLP technique that involves associating a positive emotional state with a specific trigger. For example, you can create a mental anchor by recalling a time when you received positive feedback and felt proud of your accomplishments. By anchoring this positive memory, you can access the associated feelings of confidence and self-worth whenever you encounter negative feedback.
Combining hypnotherapy and NLP coaching provides a comprehensive approach to managing selective perception. Through guided sessions, clients can explore and modify their subconscious beliefs, learn practical techniques to shift their focus, and develop a more balanced and positive outlook.
Managing your mind is essential for maintaining emotional and mental well-being. If you find yourself struggling with selective perception and focusing too much on the negatives, reaching out for professional help can make a significant difference.
As a hypnotherapist and NLP coach, I am here to guide you through this process, helping you cultivate a healthier and more positive mindset. Remember, it’s crucial to manage your thoughts, or they will manage you. Feel free to reach out if you want assistance on this journey.
Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles, is a Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Master NLP Practitioner and Coach.
