It’s amazing how events in your life happen over some finite period of time… maybe over the course of a few years, a few days or even minutes… but the impact can be lifelong.

If the impact is positive, you are very fortunate. If it is not, negative feelings and thoughts will live with you in your subconscious mind for the rest of your life, unless you do something to change that.

Like for example… Let’s say a man had a father who left when he was 3 years old. OK what happened? Dad left. DONE. 

No… NOT done because that little boy created an interpretation of that event to mean that he was abandoned and unloved. 45 years later that man is still feeling the impact of that “sad story” that HE had created around that event. 

All dad did was leave. He had his reasons and was just acting out of whatever was inside of his reality and what he believed he needed at the time. Did you notice that nothing in that sentence had anything to do with the little boy he left behind? 

You see people have only so many resources available to them… I mean emotional. physical, financial, spiritual, intellectual… and if someone doesn’t have the resources to give you what you want, it doesn’t mean you are not deserving of that. It just means that person is not capable of being that for you. Do you see the difference and how differently that lands?

So, a whole lot of hurt was created in that hypothetical experience because of what that child… and now man… made it mean. Does that make sense?

Kids have very little real information of the world and that was the only explanation that made sense to the child and it was automatic… not on a conscious level. It became his life “story” and was retold over and over again in his subconscious mind. He believed it to be true. It ran him in his everyday life.

If you or someone you know feels sad, it may be because of an old story that runs them. If you think it’s time to break that cycle, please always feel free to reach out for a complimentary phone consultation. Hypnosis and NLP Coaching techniques are powerful tools to help you to shift perspective and break old negative patterns of thinking in your life.

Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles, is a Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Master NLP Practitioner and Coach.