What causes road rage and other anger management issues?  Why do some people erupt like a volcano at the slightest provocation?  

When people have angry reactions that are disproportionate to the events that triggered them, it’s pretty clear that they were not reacting to what just happened.  All of us carry with us emotions that started in childhood.  Unless you have found a therapeutic process, like Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy, or other NLP coaching techniques, to release the past, you’ll probably be carrying the emotions from past events throughout your lifetime.  

Every new event that triggers that emotion just builds onto the string, making that emotion stronger and more prevalent in your life.  We’re talking about anger in this article, but this is true for all negative emotions, including sadness, fear, hurt, and guilt, among others.

I specialize in techniques that enable my clients to let go of all of the negative emotions of their past so that when anger comes up in the future, it is manageable and only related to the specific event that triggered it.  

Anger is a normal human emotion and helps us to identify when we feel “wronged” in some way. Sometimes we can take constructive actions around these events, and other times, we cannot.  The key to an appropriate response is for you to stop for a moment to get “learning” out of the event that will enable you to release the anger and think clearly about your next steps.  

As an example, if someone cuts you off on the freeway, you can take it personally, become aggressive, and have an all-out fight with the other driver.  Or, you can stop and get a quick lesson… like, “That wasn’t personal.  I hope he gets a ticket for being a reckless driver.  That’s HIS problem and not mine.  If I pick a fight with him, this will now become my problem.  I won’t let this ruin my day.”  Then, just drop it.  Think… is there REALLY anything to prove here?

Which feels better? Okay… so you might think that this is easier said than done.  The truth is… A calm and rational reaction to an event that triggers anger is usually only possible if you first get rid of all of that pent-up past emotion.

If you find that anger is running your life and making you and others around you unhappy, take action now.  I offer a free consultation and a mini NLP coaching phone session to all new clients.  

Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles, is a Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Master NLP Practitioner and Coach.