Making decisions can often feel like a tug-of-war between the heart and the mind.
Hypnotherapy and NLP Coaching techniques can provide you with clarity about what is really important to you… and help you find the courage to make choices that resonate with the essence of you. They can also help you to align your heart and your mind. In the world of Hypnotherapy, this also means getting your conscious and subconscious minds in sync.
Imagine you’re in a clothing store, and you spot something that’s on sale. It looks nice, the price is right, so you try it on. But then comes the indecision. You stand in front of the mirror, turning this way and that, wondering, “Do I really want this?” Before you know it, your analytical mind kicks in, convincing you that it’s a good deal and that you should buy it. “How can you go wrong at this price?” you think. But as many of us have experienced, that’s where the trouble begins.
I can tell you exactly how you can go wrong. If you’re anything like me, that item will end up sitting in your closet, sometimes with the tag still on, for months or even years. It’s something you bought because the price was right, not because you absolutely loved it. Eventually, it gets donated or given away, barely worn, if at all.
This scenario doesn’t just apply to shopping; it can apply to many areas of life, including relationships. The best piece of advice my mother ever gave me was, “If it’s not YES, YES, YES… it’s NO.” This principle is incredibly simple, yet so powerful. It serves as a reminder to trust your instincts and listen to your heart, especially when making decisions that truly matter.
Logic, analysis, reasoning and will power all live in the conscious mind, which is only 5% of our total mind power. The rest resides in the subconscious realm. The goal would always be for our conscious thoughts and desires to be aligned with our subconscious program so that we can actually attain what we want.
Think about it: When something is right for you, you don’t have to convince yourself to want it. Whether it’s a piece of clothing, a job offer, or a relationship, when your heart is fully in alignment, you feel it in every fiber of your being. There’s an undeniable sense of certainty, an inner voice shouting, “Yes, this is it!” That’s when you know you’re making the right choice.
On the other hand, when you’re not fully convinced, you’ll notice yourself hesitating, rationalizing, or trying to talk yourself into something. That’s a red flag. If you have to work hard to convince yourself that it’s the right decision, chances are, it’s not.
This advice isn’t just about saying no to things that don’t fully resonate with you; it’s about clearing the path for the things that do. When you say no to the things that are only “okay,” you make room in your life for the things that are truly “YES, YES, YES.” You create space for opportunities, experiences, and relationships that are fully aligned with who you are and what you want.
So, the next time you’re faced with a decision, big or small, take a moment to check in with yourself. Ask, “Is this a YES, YES, YES?” If it’s not, then it’s a no. Trust that inner voice, and let it guide you toward choices that feel right in your heart.
Remember, life is too short to fill it with things that don’t light you up. Always listen to your heart, and let it lead you to the choices that are 100% aligned with the authentic you.
If you find yourself often making choices NOT aligned with what YOU really want at the deepest part of you, Hypnotherapy and NLP Coaching are the best tools to help you to understand why… and change that!
Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles, is a Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Master NLP Practitioner and Coach.
