Are you at the effect of other people or are you in control of your life??

In other words, do you need other people to tell you that you are doing a good job or that you are a good person to know and feel at the deepest part of you that it’s true? Are you easily influenced by other people’s opinions and frequently unsure of yourself?

Everyone wants to know that they are appreciated, loved and respected by others. It is a wonderful feeling!! However, people lead busy lives and… most of the time other people are too wrapped up in their own lives to focus on you. So, unless those feelings can also be self-generated, you are NOT free! 

You are, instead, dependent upon other people to build you up, stroke you and tell you how worthy you are. Without that, there is a void inside of you… like a black hole… that hurts. Is this how you want to live your life?

Compound this with the fact that the feelings of self-worth that are present in that fleeting moment of being validated by someone else disappear too quickly. It can never sustain without an external force creating it for you. This means that you are continually “at the effect” of others, instead of being in control of your own life.

Like a drug addict, it’s as though you need another fix…. and then another… and then another. 

The solution is, of course… releasing whatever negative thoughts are present for you so that you can easily generate internal validation anytime you need it. 

I know how all this feels because I was very insecure before I did a great deal of personal development breakthrough work on myself. NLP Coaching and hypnosis helped me to release negative emotions and thought patterns about myself and create new, empowering ones in their place.

Why live the rest of your life ONLY feeling like you are “okay” when you are validated by others? This would mean that you are allowing other people to control your mindset. If you get praised, you are worthy; if not… you’re wondering what’s wrong. Does that sound like anyone you know?

Other people can never fill you up… ever! It’s impossible to ever feel good enough if you don’t know that inside of yourself already. It’s also easy to fill that void yourself so that praise doesn’t need to come from other people you can’t control.

If you want to be in control of your own life, You just need to seek the love, praise and respect inside of yourself. And… this you have unlimited access to… 24/7! 

Please always feel free to reach out if you want to know more about how to access it!

Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles, is a Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Master NLP Practitioner and Coach.