Some people think the only way to never feel hurt again is to never love or care about anyone again. I used to think that before I did a lot of NLP Coaching courses and personal development work on myself… That’s definitely NOT the way I see it anymore.

Now, my view is… give your love freely, but manage your expectations of others. As long as you know that you are whole and complete with or without the other person, you are fine. When you find unconditional love and respect for yourself, it enables you to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Hypnosis and NLP coaching techniques are great ways to dig deep and reinforce self-love and self-respect.

Brene Brown talks a great deal about the strength in vulnerability… she calls vulnerability the cornerstone to confidence. I couldn’t agree more. You become bulletproof when you know no one can ever hurt you… unless you give them permission to do so. Why would you ever give your power away? Do you see how this frees you up to love and live life fully… without fear?

Here’s how you hold onto your personal power and stay vulnerable enough to let love in, yet remain strong… Whenever something happens that used to trigger hurt for you… Listen to the interpretation of events inside your head and you will hear your story and understand why you feel the emotions you feel. NLP is all about “linguistics” or language. It is with language that we create our “story.” Change the story if it makes you feel bad. 

If some guy or girl you are looking forward to seeing breaks a date with you, you can feel disappointed because your expectation was that the feelings were mutual. However, if you feel really hurt and down, listen to the thoughts inside your head. Are you saying, “He broke the date because I don’t measure up? Or maybe she found someone better. Someone more attractive… thinner… smarter…” the list goes on.

But what if you just made it mean that the person ONLY broke a date? That’s all… Nobody died here!

Maybe there’s a valid reason and it doesn’t mean that person has decided to not see you again. Or maybe it does. Either way, just know it’s NOT your problem. Because… you ARE WHOLE AND COMPLETE with or without that person. 

Always feel free to reach out to me if you want to book your confidential and complimentary phone consultation to talk about YOUR future.

Jayne Goldman, MBA, C.Ht., Founder and Principal of Best Life Hypnotherapy in Los Angeles, is a Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Master NLP Practitioner and Coach.